Friday, April 26, 2013

Open Letter To My Daughters


Hi Darlings, I wish you guys a great weekend! I am going to leave you with an open letter I wrote to my (all of our) daughters. xo 





61 comments:

  1. Yes and Amen! This is fabulous and I WILL be passing it on!

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  2. OMG....*standing ovation*
    I have two daughters who mean the world to me, and it seems like no matter how hard we try to instill good values, today's "ratchetness" seems to be more attractive.

    ...but in the end, I BELIEVE and KNOW - we win! (Train up a child...!)

    Blessings to you for sharing this!

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  3. May the church say AMEN!
    I stop watching TV a long time ago, for all the "ratcheness" going on #iCant
    that was beautiful Mimi, as a mother of little girls myself I could agree more. we have to teach them, and PRAY!
    crapiness out there like you said is like a tsunamy but we gotta beleive the word "teach them in the way they should go and when they grow they will not depart from it"

    Great word!
    Hugs

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  4. Love the letter ,words like the needs to be spoken more often to both our young ladies and men.

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  5. Why is this letter SOOOO on point and SOOOO needed on the height of ridiculousness that is called "reality" tv. You know I thought of you and the conversations we've had about LHHA and the pure foolishness that is aired on that show and the likes. I happen to see this interview cross my youtube feed and decided to take a look....lawd, WHY WHY WHY. It really broke my heart. It really did. Everything I look around everything is centered around strippers and wanna be strippers. I mean really??? Sad state we are in. Cheers to you for writing this open letter. I couldn't agree with you enough. SMH.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eRv5BOsEXLE

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  6. I KNOW THAT'S RIGHT!!!SPEAK ON IT!!! Television has become nothing more than tell-a vision. And their vision is serious distorted. luvvvv this!!!

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  7. Praise Jesus and Hallelujah for writing this!!! Thanks for the explanation of ratchet.

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  8. AMEN Mimi! I am copying and sending this right now to my two lovely teenage daughters. So far they are leading by example and I have not lost them to the foolishness all around them.

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  9. Love this! I am a mother to a teen (14) girl and stepmother to a preteen (12) girl. It is a never ending discussion in our home, especially with the media.

    Now, sadly, the media isn't the only one to blame. The way I see girls dressed, getting out of their PARENTS' car in the morning -- at a junior high where the kids are 12-15 -- is distasteful at best and slutty at the absolute worst.

    We have to be responsible for *our* girls - our daughters, their friends, our nieces, cousins, etc - and teach them the right way!

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  10. Aww man this is too sweet. It brought tears to my eyes. I have two daughters myself and I really like this letter. Thank you for sharing. We have to continue to build these young ladies up because the world is trying to bring them down!

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  11. Well spoken. It's no coincidence that you put this letter up. I just had a bit of a breakdown with my sister this morning about my pre-teen daughter. I needed this and I'm sure a lot of others do as well. Your daughters will definitely appreciate this letter. Maybe not now but they definitely will! Have a great weekend and continued success with life and your blog ;-)

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  12. Remind them again and again and again and again...I couldn't have said it better myself...Thank God for Women who will stand up and tell the truth...

    Beautiful Post.

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  13. Beautiful letter!!! I have a 4 (going on 5) year old daughter and this is the kind of stuff I am trying to plant in her little impressionable brain. I have an 18 month old son I want to teach how to act like a gentleman and treat a woman with respect. I don't know how being classy just went to the wayside! We are a society of the 'quick fix'-- getting money fast and easy, info right at our fingertips when we need it. No one wants to work hard anymore and buffoonery gets you famous. I commend you teaching your daughters different! I sure hope my teachings stick with my children! God Bless!

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  14. So lovely, I'm trying to teach my daughter this everyday.

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  15. Mimi -
    This is why your "Darlings" love you! Thank you for posting this! I will more young ladies could see this and put it into practice! You're a good role model for your daughters - never change who and what you are!
    Enjoy your weekend lady!

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  16. Thanks for writing this, Mimi! I'm pregnant with my first child...and I just found out a few days ago that she is a girl! I'm honored and excited to be her mom, already! BUT it hit me like a ton of bricks what that really means...that I (and my husband and our support system) will be responsible to teach her to love and respect herself in a world that won't necessarily do the same. It's great to know that there are others out there who think like I/we do!

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  17. Beautifully written!

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  18. Never think of yourself as defeated and conquered when it comes to the evil ways of the world. You can still remain just as powerful and influential as you were when the ladies were too young to remember. A book that I read, which I think it a really good read for your young ladies is "What Women Don't Know and Men Don't tell you". I believe that book has some very inspiring messages in it and also has Biblical references. I don't think it would bore them. Check the reviews on Amazon. Keep up the great work and I'm sure you've heard that the battle is not yours alone. Keep praying and you all will be guided in the right direction.

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  19. Preach Mimi! I will print this out, pin it to my pin-board and keep it close to show my future daughters!

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  20. Simply Beautiful! I am blessed that my teenage daughter has not been sucked in the this worlds foolishness also. It's so important that we train up our children in the way that they should go and build that foundation. We will be reading this together. Thanks for sharing! God bless you and your family!

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  21. Amen! Bravo! I am going to retweet this post!

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  22. Well said! My 16-year old son just told me about his friends using the word ratchet in that regard. He told them they were just mispronouncing wretched. (I wish we could get all this wretchedness off TV...)

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  23. Beautifully written! I am raising a daughter also that I am teaching these things also.I pray everyday that I don't lose her to this crazy world.

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  24. I like that you took the time to write this, I am sure your daughters appreciate the time and love that it took to raise them and the thought behind this letter. I wish more parents took the time to do this, maybe if they did I would not see thirteen year old girls looking like they belong in a Lil' Wayne video. I do not have a daughter, but I do have a son and I am trying hard to raise him to be the man you want your daughters to be with. With all that being said I hope everyone reads this and talks to their children.

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  25. Beautifully written and expressed!

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  26. This is wonderful. I hope that all of our daughters will remember these things!

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  27. I love this!! Thank you for writing and sharing this. Don't have daughters (yet) but I do have two teenage sisters (15 & 17) I live 12 hours away from them and it's hard to be an influence from so far away. I will definitely share this with my mom so she can pass it along to them. Our young ladies NEED to read things like this. once again thank you so much for sharing it (^_^)

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  28. This just inspired me to write my own letter to my two young sons in the same respect. I shared this on FB so that more people would realize the importance of educating/teaching our young women to value and respect themselves. Absolutely anointed letter. Thank you!

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  29. Thank you, Mimi. Your letter is beautiful and heartfelt. My 16 year old daughter and I discuss this topic regularly. I am thankful she respects herself and carries herself as a young lady. I will be sharing this letter with her.

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  30. hello mimi...i do not have children, yet i am inspired by your letter. it's so moving, i will be keeping that in mind for the future. thanks so much for sharing your life w/ the world. you are a true light and inspiration.

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  31. Amen!! I have two daughters also. Have always taught them the same way!!

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  32. This is one of the best things I've ever read on the internet (or anywhere else for that matter). Bravo.

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  33. Love it! Took me 20-something years to learn some of this! Keep being a great example to your kids and to those who read your blog!

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  34. This letter rings volumes of truth. I am in my 50's and remember when ladies acted as ladies, young and old. When grandmother's dished out directives on how a young lady dressed, walked and talked. I truly think your daughters have a great role model, you've taught them well and live the example they will follow. You and your husband teach be example even when you don't think they are watching or listening they are. They are learning how to be treated, the respect they deserve and how a lady should act. Keep up the great work!

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  35. This is a lovely letter to your daughters. I have been told the same thing myself by my mother and my father. I wish all young women would read this and be inspired. I wrote a post about virtue here on my blog. http://charlyn87.blogspot.co.uk/2012/02/where-has-virtue-gone.html

    Thanks for the inspirational words.

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  36. Thank you for the letter! I'm 17 (will be 18 in December). I'm still a virgin (proud of it), never had a boyfriend and want to wait until marriage to have sex. I don't know why people think that being a virgin is such a bad thing. I'm really surprised on how women nowadays just spread their legs to dozens of men and have one night stands. Young women post half-naked pictures of themselves on the internet and don't show any self respect....and to this day they can't figure out why men don't respect them. Some young women even pretend to be stupid just to get a guy. I want to keep my body to myself and my future husband. I'm not interested in being popular (skipping school, bullying other people) or cool at school because your popularity wont get you anywhere in life. People think that I'm boring, but at the end of the day I know that God will give me a great husband who will love me for who I am and we'll have beautiful children...and grandchildren. This is an important message to not only young women, but also to parents who let their daughters do some of those things because they believe that it is just innocent.

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    1. I am a mentor to your age group of young ladies at my church. The very things that you have mentioned in your comment, are the very things that we are teaching the young ladies. We share real life experiences with them and they are so appreciative of it. Just as I have prayed for them, I pray that you will continue to be the light in what seems to be such a dark world. Praise God for you and your leadership among others!

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    2. You have said everything that's on my mind but couldn't put into words. I have raised 8 girls 6 of which i did not birth myself but God placed them in my life, they were labeled as troubled teens and through alot of love and patience they have turned into fine young women.. THANK YOU SO MUCH for posting your letter for us Mothers to share with our daughters too... HUGS a Sister in Christ

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  37. That is AWESOME!!!! I don't have any daughters, but I still think it is well said. Sometimes I have to remember not to get wrapped up in the shallowness of it all too. (And I am 34 years old and married with a son) Thanks for keeping it old school and keeping it real!!!

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  38. Awesome letter! I have sons and I have the same concerns. I hope that what their father and I have taught them will far outweigh the bad they've seen and heard on TV or the internet. Sometimes it feel like an uphill battle, but I'm encouraged that they will do what's right.

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  39. Beautiful & truthful message

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  40. Amen. You just spoke words to them that they will keep for a life time. They will know their mother loved them and had the courage to fight for them. My daughters are now grown and I fought the same battle. They may have stumbled here and there, but the young women they have become..words can't express this mother's joy. You keep doing exactly what you're doing. Your precious jewels are worth it.

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  41. This is so powerful and so true! I was just having this convo about how so many women have this distorted concept of what it means to be a lady. successful. independent, a good wife and mother. Its ridiculous what junk is glorified, and unfortunately in todays society if our young women speak out against it or "go against the grain" they are considered "haters". My daughter is only 8months and Ive vowed to myself and God that I will do all that I can to show her what it means to be a woman. Thanks for this letter to our daughters!!!

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  42. Well spoken!!! I felt the same way after watching a show last night that was so tasteless! I don't have a daughter but I do have a son and I don't want him to even be attracted to that type of woman! Your children are very blessed to have such a wonderful mother. I will pass this on to my friends with daughters.

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  43. Mimi,
    Thank you for that wonderful post- I will be sending to my daughter shortly. It is not easy and I too have been through the grinder but now she is finishing her last year in college (early) and is intelligent, focused, organized, wise and beautiful. May the Creator Bless you and your family always. You are a great example. Peace & Love

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  47. MimI Love This! I Have 4 Daughters And I Tell Them Basically The same Thing! I'm Going To Have Them Read ThisToo!

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  48. Fantastic letter! I will definitely share.

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mimi g.